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Living is hard enough with all the worries in the world and the stress in your life. So just be yourself, and make life happen don't just live, live outloud! Muah!

A Dedication to Our Queendom

Me and my friends have a way of dealing with one another. Each kind of plays a role to the whole group and then we have our separate bonds. Bonds that are unbreakable and recent events have proven that. 8 yrs we have invested in friendship and some of us 10. Its crazy when you look back on life and a friendship and see how much you and the people that mean the most to you been through. me and my three girls have been through good, bad, ugly, and devilish things. We have all made one another cry, laugh, wanna fight and wanna hug each other. No matter the circumstances we have stood by one another. We may take time away and have not so nice things to say but its all in the name of love for our girls. These are the woman who will watch and help me grow and vice versa. I love my Queens.

To Our Queendom!

Something to Think About

Something to think about.....
Earlier today my best friend Brandi emailed me a link to an article called “11 Things to Know at 25ish” by Shauna Niequist. It is published in Relevant Magazine. This article gives insight on life and what we could be doing about it at this young oh so tender age. It really opened my eyes to the things that I have been looking at as obstacles and showed me that they are more like opportunities. Opportunities that are given to you to mess up fix it and mess up again. Being 22 seems so hard sometimes. I never know what path I want to take, I am always dreaming up some plan for my life but I never take action on it. The article talked about the how this is the time to figure it all out. This is the time to take risks, travel and try everything you ever wanted. While doing so you, you may just end up finding YOU. I find myself stressing over really small things, but to me it’s the end of the world. Being a single mother has its ups and downs. My priorities are different from your average 22 year old. I have another life to think about when making certain decisions. Like where I want to work. I would love to be working part time and interning with a radio station, or a fashion boutique, going on vacation to Miami and Paris in the summer or even a cruise but my responsibilities to keep a roof over her head and food in her stomach keep me from doing so. So here I am at a job I don’t like, spending day after day dreaming of what I want to be doing. After reading this article I have realized that I have to give a little to get more. I need to start pursuing some of the things I dream of. Giving a little more of my time now while I am young and she is young may mean more time when we both are older for us to grow and be happy and be stable in every way possible. The want for more is no longer a want it is a necessity. I need to do things the way I see fit (of course in a way beneficial to our well- being). This article spoke volumes to me. I hope this speaks volumes to you and that you get up, get out, and do something with your life.

Looking Past the Past

Your past haunts you in more ways than one. It can consume you until there isn’t a future to look forward to, there is always a past to look into. People hardly ever notice this defect in their lives, others that do notice aren’t able to control it and take a stand against it. I am a victim of this epidemic. I always see what the problem is and the solution, however I am never able to get the grip on how to put those solutions into action. It is only human instinct to compare situations from the past when faced with a similar one. The issue lies with in taking the lesson learned from past experience and using it to better the new situation or to get past it. Most people, like me, dwell on the past situation. We harbor those feelings that we thought we may have moved on from. We may have prayed for healing, even changed our lives around a little to change those feelings but when faced with a similar situation we revert back to those feelings and regurgitate the outcome. So how do you move past the old and embrace the new? It’s a scary thing when the old has hurt you, or disappointed you. All I can really say is give it a chance. Approach the situation in a different manner not using the past as a crutch. Do not hold onto what was and let what is in. There are always signs, like huge red flags, that will always let you know if this particular situation will be like the last. It is up to you to point them out in the beginning in order to see a change or to deal with it and get the same results. Look past what you have been through, other things people have done to you because even though there are hints of those situations in your current one, one strong belief in change can make all the difference.